Dating a registered sex offender
So, yeah, I'd break it off, no questions asked, wouldn't matter if it was when he was 18 and dating his 16 year old neighbor. What gets me is, -something that has been pointed out already- you can be labeled a "sex offender" from anything to "peeing in the bushes" to aggrivated rape. Level 1 is like you were caught in the park in your car whacking off or something. I wont touch anyone with any type of sex offense, regardless of how minor.
I dont think the law provides for a distinction between the two and I dont think there are certian degrees of offense, it's just one braod title. There are a lot of people who would see that title and not bother asking what it was about or what they had done to get on the list, they only see SEX OFFENDER. Level 3 is the worst, and considered most likely to re-offend. Maybe unfair to the guy who was 18 and had a 15 yr old girlfriend, but that 'Sex Offender' title is a no no for me.
I don’t give up easily and in the following weeks, I bombarded him with questions and made him tell me the full details of his offences – I felt I needed to get a better understanding of why he’d done what he did and I needed to be sure that I could accept this man and his past.
It didn’t take me long to realise that I was already happier than I’d been in other relationships.
I don't know what restrictions are imposed regarding being around kids, and I suppose I would look into it, but that would be a very big obstacle to overcome.
Who wants a friend to say, "Um, this is weird, but I saw your boyfriend on the sex offender website"? Great point, I was looking on the sex offender list earlier this year and a man I used to work with was on there and we are facebook friends as well.
We were there for over an hour whilst I was asked what I’d been told about the convictions, whether I had any children or grandchildren under the age of 18 (I didn’t).
I dont think the law provides for a distinction between the two and I dont think there are certian degrees of offense, it's just one braod title. There are a lot of people who would see that title and not bother asking what it was about or what they had done to get on the list, they only see SEX OFFENDER. What if my feelings were very serious or headed that way?
Would I want to be married to someone who has to register every year?
I didn't think any less of him and I did not unfriend him.
I'd have to break it off immediately, or find a new job. We have three levels: Level I, Level 2, and Level 3.